The Problem With Nice Guys

Earlier this week I mentioned that the Friendzone is a concept fabricated by Nice Guys. This time, I want to talk about what a Nice Guy is, and why being a Nice Guy actually isn't all that nice.

You Are Now Entering The Friendzone

One of the most toxic concepts men have about dating and relationships is the idea of the Friendzone. In this article, I'm going to explore what the Friendzone is, why it's so harmful, and how you can cut it out of your life.

For Your Health

For a lot of people, good health is a gift enjoyed by others, and the lack of such a gift is a source of shame and ridicule, but fitness is something that anyone can attain. Like so many other things, living a healthy lifestyle is a skill, and anyone can learn it.

The Beauty Of Male Sexuality

There's not a lot of talk about male sexuality in a positive light these days. To be sure, there are a lot of ugly and terrible things that a poorly-developed male sexuality can cause, but why don't we have more examples of positive male sexuality, and what does a healthy male sexuality look like?

We're On Facebook!

Just a quick housekeeping note to announce our new Facebook Page which launched last night! You'll also notice that we now have a logo and a banner to help keep our brand consistent across sites!



Our logo is better than yours!

So what does the new Facebook Page mean for you? It means you have an easy way to keep up with new articles on the blog, and also a place that we'll be able to share related content from other sites. If you come across various articles, posts, comics, or just have an idea you want to discuss, you'll be able to post that to the page as well. In other words, it's a place for the Modern Masculinity community to interact with one another more directly.

Remember, you can also always send an email to todaysmasculinity@gmail.com if you have any questions or topic suggestions that you'd like to keep anonymous!

Violence And The Modern Man

A few weeks ago I mentioned that according to the current cultural narrative, a man is measured along two axes. One was his ability to get sexual partners, and the other was his capacity for violence. I want to explore the relationship between masculinity and violence, why that relationship is so toxic right now, and how we can work to dismantle it.

#YesAllWomen And Not All Men

Over the past several days, in response to the toxic masculinity that manifested in Elliot Rodgers and led to the tragedy in California on Friday, there's been a macro-conversation going on via Twitter linked by the hashtag #YesAllWomen. This conversation has been exposing the billions of ways that women are forced to deal with sexual aggression from men in their day-to-day life. As men, how should we be responding to these conversations?

The Tragedy of Hypermasculinity

Last Friday, May 23rd, 22-year-old Elliot Rodgers went on a violent killing spree that ended with 7 people dead, including himself, and 13 injured. He did this because he was still a virgin and blamed others for his lack of romantic success.

What's The Deal With Confidence?

One of the most common topics of self-improvement advice, in particular with regards to dating, is to be more confident. Why is this trait so important, and how do you build confidence when you don't already have it?

Sexual Integrity

There are a lot of aspects of traditional masculinity that really don't apply anymore, but no matter how you define it, an essential difference between man and boy is that a man has matured enough to take responsibility for his own actions and words. A true man has the integrity to conduct himself in a way that is respectful to those around him, without compromising his own standards. Despite society's current views of men, a true man is not defined by the number of people he's had sex with, but rather how he approaches sex.

I Have No Soul Mate (And That's OK)

Recently, there's been a post going around from a woman who was recently engaged but was questioning if it's the right path for her. The ultimate message of the post is challenging the concept of "Soul Mates," instead insisting that since nobody is perfect there is nobody that is perfect for you, and the decision to love is precisely that, a decision. A friend of mine posted a well-worded rebuttal to this, drawing from his personal experience and insisting that Soul Mates do exist for those who are "called to marriage." Leaving aside the spiritual aspects of these arguments, I want to focus on the concept of a soul mate.

The Porcelain Man

For my first post, I wanted to dive straight into the main topic this blog will be centered around: Masculinity. More specifically, I want to examine just how fragile society's current concept of masculinity is, how it got to be that way, and why we need to redefine it for the current day and age. I'm going to try to keep this as concise as I can, and I realize there will be some points that may not seem immediately obvious. Rest assured I plan to explore them individually in future posts, and in the meantime you can feel free to send questions and topic requests to todaysmasculinity@gmail.com.

I Think We're Just Getting Started

Over the past few months, I've become fairly outspoken on a lot of things related to gender issues. This blog is intended to be a place where I can gather my thoughts and share them with others, with the goal of sparking some discussion. Please keep comments civil and respectful; I really don't want to have to moderate them heavily.

Some of the common themes of this blog will include:

• Appropriate vs. inappropriate behavior
• Proper hygiene/grooming/dressing
• Interacting with those who have alternate worldviews
• Respecting and enforcing boundaries
• Navigating emotions
• And many more!

Expect the first actual post to come up sometime over the weekend. I am currently planning on posting as things come up with no set schedule, but will be attempting to put up 2-3 posts per week. Be sure to subscribe to get updates on new posts, and I look forward to reading your thoughts and responses in the comments!